Internet Dating Anxiety?

I've been talking to a guy now over the internet for a few months whom I really like a lot. We've decided to meet up soon but I am very nervous! See... I am overweight. I've made this clear to him on several occassions. But, he says that he doesn't care what I look like and that he cares deeply for me and will help me if I want to loose weight for myself but that he doesn't want me starving myself or going through strenuous work-outs just because I am insecure about meeting him. I've had many romantic relationships in the past but it's different because they met me in person and held no expectations of what I would look like because they already knew me. I think that I have a lot to offer whatever partner I am with - I have my faults but in my eyes the only major flaw is my weight. It is the single most embarassing and disappointing thing in my life. I want nothing more than to be with him but I am afraid he won't like me when we meet. What can I do to ease my fears?

Internet Dating Anxiety?
you have nothing to lose by meeting him. You need to feel as confident as you can, and you will lose weight when you know it is time. He already knows and you have been honest with him, he still wants to meet you and has admitted that he still cares deeply for you. You know guys are not all shallow and place looks 1st, and you sound intelligent and beautiful, so go for it, and also be careful, you don't know him yet really, so as with any internet dating, be extra careful, I've met some real winners!
Reply:loose the weight anyway ..... not to be rude ... just honest.





weight like that is a health issue regardless of your [young] age ....





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good luck ....





by the way ....... be carefull about your little buddy ..... use wisdom .... have a friend near by ... just in case ..... he does not need to know you have a friend near by ..... all I am saying is be sure to use your brain ....





" ..... you never REALLY know [ about a person ] .... untill .... you KNOW [ the person] ... .. "


(think about that)
Reply:well if he ends up not liking you just because of your weight then he's not worth it
Reply:if u like him that much, then u should trust him when he says that he isn't goingto judge you!


I'm sure he'll love u sweetie!
Reply:Don't be anxious... The best way to "break the ice" is to send him realistic pictures of yourself. This way he, too, will be prepared to what you look like - just like the people you had met before. Overweight or not, it's always a good idea to exchange pictures before meeting someone from the internet - just to know what to expect. Good luck.
Reply:gussy up and go for it girl beauty is only skin deep
Reply:You know what?! Some men don't want skinny and bony women, it seems that the skinnier a man is the more he adores voluminous women. Relax, you have been honest...be yourself...you are the women he writes to and WANTS TO MEET for no other reason than he hasn't found his someone. You just may be his mate....good luck....and have fun.
Reply:First off, If being overweight is the most horrible thing in your life then you should definitely work on making changes with that, not for any guy but for yourself so you can be happy. As for him, Well if you have already explained to him that you are overweight and he understands and accepts that then don't worry about it. If he acts a different way then expected when you do see him then just brush it off and move on. Just be careful with meeting people on the Internet they can be psycho. Good luck and i hope that you take the advice about losing weight because you will be a much happier person.
Reply:If you are that nervous about it send him a picture before hand ... That way if he doesnt like you it wont be as hard for either one..But honestly sweety no matter your size you deserve to be loved you have to believe that..There are alot of men I have seen that are with big women so dont worry if he doesnt then I am sure you will find someone that can love you for you... By the way you should never be embarassed by the way you are you have to know you are beautiful no matter what anyone else thinks..Don't let your anxiety miss out on something that can be good..He already knows your a big girl so doll ya self up and have a good time
Reply:you were honest and upfront about yourself





he says it's not a problem





just be careful and meet in a public place


have a great date





wishing you the best
Reply:send him a body pic online so he knows what he's in for. if he still wants to then why not? You cant rely on cake and cookies as a substitute for love forever darling, or youre gonna stay fat.
Reply:I think this is very common. You will have to trust that he really DOES care about your inner beauty more than any flaws you see on your exterior.





When you meet other people in RL, they accept you for who you are, right? Well this guy REALLY knows the real you, because that's all he was able to be exposed to. Meeting in RL now is just a formality!





Good luck!