Do you believe in internet dating?

I met my ex through MySpace, so I guess it kinda worked for me...I've always wondered if any of those online dating sites really worked. I'm not necessarily trying to meet anyone online, I'm just curious what everyone thinks.





What do you think?

Do you believe in internet dating?
I've never tried online dating sites for myself. However, I guess I technically met my ex online as well. I wouldn't really count this one, because I actually already knew who he was beforehand; I knew all of his friends and some of his cousins, but I never did talk to or hang out with him personally. I stumbled upon his screen name on a friend's site, started talking to him through AIM, and went on from there.





I've had one friend who met one of her exes online on MySpace as well. The relationship was not only long distance (my friend lived in Texas and the ex was in Colorado) and stressful, but it was also emotionally destructive to both of them. Even after being single for at least a year, it's evident that it has had a great, negative impact on my friend.





However, I suppose there are many couples out there who've met online and are in healthy, loving relationships and are still together. My own relationship with my ex was a pretty good one, nothing negative or harmful, despite the fact that we didn't last. I personally don't know anyone who has met their significant other on an online dating site. The only positive testimonies I've heard about them are from the commercials on television, which isn't much of a reference, you know?





I guess I just never took a liking to online dating sites, because the concept of meeting a person online and already having the intention of dating or pursuing a relationship does not seem all that romantic to me. I don't disapprove of online dating sites, nor am I critical of people who use them. I just wouldn't use them myself.





I would much rather go out and meet someone in person firsthand. I like to meet new people OUTSIDE the bounds of my home, who I haven't already added on Facebook or MySpace, while sitting in front of my computer. I also don't like match-making intentions. Yeah, I can be attracted to someone right off the bat, but I like to make friends first. I don't think people should get to know other people when they already have the intention to date. For one, I think it sets up expectations for the one who's looking to date or get together, and expectations can breed disappointment. I also think that having that intention makes you anticipate and that can make things move a little fast; they can also affect one's judgement. If you were truly just trying to "get to know someone", then get to know them as the person they truly are, without sticking the "potentional boyfriend/girlfriend" label on them. That's why it's good to just meet people and be friends first. Some say if the relationship goes ary, then the friendship is destroyed. You just have to be careful. The big plus about already being friends is that you two already know a good deal about each other, so the risks for hurting one another should be lower.





All in all, I prefer to actually just "fall in love" with a person and NOT online. I know, CORNY. Still, I can't stand how everything is done through the computer nowadays. Even dating? I think people can take that one matter into their own hands. They may have helped actual people, but I think they should just be reserved as a desperate, last resort.
Reply:I do, I've seen some happy marriages as a result. I don't have personel experience with the dating aspect of it though. I do know that I can get to know someone well through the writing of letters, with the internet as a medium, or snail mail. I've formed some strong bonds this way, with friends and family members. I don't see why a romance couldn't bloom this way.
Reply:Yeah like every other way you have to really work at it.
Reply:It's never worked for me - although I have met some decent folk online... but never through any type of "official" online dating site.





I'm fairly sure that there are SOME people out in the world who've had success with those sites -- but I think there are far more failures.





My favorite ad on the radio right now is for "Match.com" - who say if you haven't met someone in six months - we'll give you six months for free. (Translation: "If you haven't had enough rejection and enough meetings with losers in the six months you've paid for... here's another six months of that for free!!")
Reply:i never ever believed it n will not believe it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!who knows that the person has already cheated on sum1 .Internet datin may b gud for sum ppl but not me!*^_^*