Internet dating question.?

i met a guy on a dating website-we chat everyday for hours-have exchanged pictures. he lives in miami-i live in ny. he is very sensitive and afraid of getting hurt. i am imtelligent and street savy but need advice. we love each other-been talking online for 9 months. he wants to marry me-but is not ready to chat on phone or meet. i know whe's not married cause we im so much spending fri and sat night stogether.





what could possibly be the reason?

Internet dating question.?
You cannot even begin to talk marriage until you have met! If you haven't even talked on the phone, something isn't right with the situation. He's either married or not who he claims to be.
Reply:First off if you have never met them but only have talked online for 9 months maybe the picture he sent you wasnt really himself. Plus he could be good at hiding things from you if you have only talked online. There is no real way for you to know if he has some other relationship with another person since you have only talked online. The internet is an interesting place you should be careful. It seems to me that he is hiding something and or lied about something. If he isnt ready to chat in person or on the phone even then do not agree to marry him. Do not marry someone you met online with out even seeing them in person first. It is so easy to be someone you are not on the internet. You can very easy just be who ever you wish you were online. Online has alot of fakes.
Reply:If you have been chatting online for 9 months and he is not willing to talk on the telephone even - something is VERY wrong. No matter how sensitive or shy he is - by now you two should have been speaking on the telephone.


My advice to you is to do a background check on this man.


You would want to do a very detailed one where it checks public records and possible criminal activity information.


There are websites that offer this for a fee - if you are very serious about this man and are considering marrying him you have a right to know this information ahead of time.


You don't have to let him know that you are doing this - if he is on the up and up he could take offense to it - but I think that in your situation you would be wrong not to investigate this man further.


And just because he spends the weekends chatting online with you does not mean that it's impossible for him to be married or involved with someone else.


Don't be naive and don't take whatever it is he says as the absolute truth.


I hope that I'm wrong for your sake - but as I said if he is reluctant to speak on the telephone then there is something that's not right.


Be careful with your heart and be sensible and good luck!!


BTW - you can either Google for a site that does background checks or you could check out this site:


https://www.backgroundchecks.com/


Doing something like that is the ONLY way to know for sure if this man is someone that you should trust.
Reply:You need to watch Oprah, its a con artist, the next thing he will be giving you a sob story and asking for money, or at least setting you up to give him money.
Reply:I have met a number of guys i've met online (thru match.com) and you just never know until you MEET him face to face. sure, you can talk on the phone, email, chat, etc...but you just never know about the chemistry aspect until you meet. I met guys who seemed nice online but meeting them was a whole nother ball of wax. completely different. No chemistry/attraction at all.





For him, after 9 months of chatting, he'd better be willing to pick up a phone or this is just ridiculous. Maybe he's really like 15 and is using his mom's computer! Maybe he's just being a jerk! Even if he's afraid to get hurt, if he really liked you, he'd find a way to make it work. It hurts, but it's true.
Reply:Well, something must be going on with the cost, of making calls from New York to Florida. For now, stick to email. Another possibility is, he's in over his head in debt.
Reply:He may be married. Even if he is not, don't get your hopes up.





Did he say he wanted to marry you, or is that just a conculsion that you drew yourself? If he wanted to marry you, he would infact have to meet you and if he isn't willing to do that, then all you have is an internet chat buddy.





Sorry :(
Reply:My guy also communicating online but not talking on the phone. Hopefully, we will email and in contact soon to talk about how things are. Hey, i'm similar to your bf that I'm afraid of getting hurt and in doing so, i might say and do things that hurt ...