Help....internet dating issue?

i get a lot of responses from my internet ad but it gets tricky when exchanging more pics or talking on the phone comes around. most have petered, either because i stopped emailing/talking or they did. i was feeling bad for a bit about the ones i didnt end. today, i checked my inbox and had the most sad and heartwarming response yet. it was from a kid, also in his early/mid twenties who has cerebral palsy. that was the first line after his email after complimenting me. he proceeds to describe his life and things he likes (bars, sports, music, etc.) which are very normal. he then goes on to say that he is sick of being told he is just liked as a friend. he didnt say it in a pitying way. he included a picture of himself and he seemed heartbreakingly sweet and normal. i cant not respond to this ad. it touched me and kind of put things in perspective for a healthy 25 year old girl, though i dont know that i want a relationship. what to do?

Help....internet dating issue?
It's always rough when people are attracted to you, yet you don't return those feelings. I wish I could say it gets easier, but it really doesn't. In fact it gets even more difficult, as you begin to wrestle with apathy! After a couple years you begin to distance yourself from people, and you lose your ability to care about the feelings of others as telling people "no" becomes second-nature. It can take a real force of will to shift your focus and bring yourself back to reality, realizing that these are PEOPLE you're rejecting.





That's about the only advice I can give--remember that these are people, and try to place yourself in their situation. If you were the one with cerebral palsy, what would be the best way for YOU to be rejected? Generally speaking, the simple truth is the best. "I'm sorry, but I need someone capable of meeting ALL my needs. I know you hate the "let's just be friends" thing, but the bitter truth is you cannot meet all of my needs. I'm sorry to break this to you, but I feel you deserve the whole truth without being patronized."





It's how I'd do it.
Reply:if u like him go for it if not put him down easily.
Reply:I think that anyone who starts off by telling you what he is telling you is trying to use the pity card. I understand what you are saying about putting things in perspective but I still find it is strange to start off the way that he did. Honesty good, but still, you don't tell a girl you are sick of being just friends. I think that if you respond to him without having the intention of actually getting to know him better is just actually cruel. You have to ask yourself this. Do you think that you can be in a long term relationship with someone with his type of needs? If there is any doubt then don't lead the guy on.
Reply:If this guy bulked up the courage to ask you, I think you should give him a chance. He seems like a very sweet guy, and you never know! He might turn out to be perfect for you! Just give him a chance--talk to him and stuff.
Reply:So you won't respond to his response because he's normal and nice, or because he has a physical disability? Too bad for you, you may be missing out on the nicest guy you've ever dated. Cerebreal Palsy isn't infectious, the guy can still hold an intelligent conversation, he obviously values his relationships more than the average guy so it unlikely that he'll abuse, cheat, or treat you poorly, and he did answer the ad you placed asking guys to contact you.





I'd reccomend 1 of 2 things, either answer his response just like you would for any other guy, try to forget that he has Cerebreal Palsy, and at least give him the same chance you would any other guy.





Or tell him straight up that you are far too shallow and self centered to entertain the idea of going out with any one who has a disability even if he is "heartbreakingly sweet and normal".





Baby, this guy is a guy like any other. The only difference is you can see his biggest challenge. The next guy may look normal, and beat you on the first date because he can't control his temper. The guy after that may be an incurable mama's boy. And the next guy has had a penis transplant from hamster.





Every person is a package deal. You've found a sweet, normal guy who just happens to have a small challenge. It comes with the package. Can you deal with it?
Reply:Be a friend if you can but don't force yourself to be one. Pity and love are two different things and the last thing you should do with a person with disabilities is pity them or lead them on. That said, if you set the ground rules and they are understood, you may have found a very good friend.
Reply:When I was active on single website I met a lot of different kind of guys,thru emails ,few on actual dates, I mean meeting for talks and dinners,checking if he will be the love of my life,most are players,burned on past relationships,some are con artist,some are not physically fit that needs kind words and attention,I befriend them,like they are very special in my life not in a romantic way.I learned a lot about interacting with men,I become compassionate and a better person,tho I have not yet meet the love of my life. I can't give you advice,but I hope you can learned something on my experience. I bid you love and happiness.
Reply:be a big enough person to get past the fact he has a disability.
Reply:Do what you desire to do. Not sure what's on your mind really. If you are not attracted to the guy you mentioned, then that's okay. We aren't going to be attracted to all that contact us whether they are in good health or not.





There are all kinds of people out there...some you will be attracted to, some not...reply as you feel moved to reply, but don't ignore those that contact you. Even a "thanks, and good luck in your search" is better than reaching out to someone and having them not even acknowledge it.
Reply:Yea, good luck with that. ;]
Reply:All I got out of this was "healthy 25 year old girl".........sounds good to me ;-)
Reply:You can't let yourself get into a relationship out of pity. Ever. Also - I hope you know already - be damned careful meeting people from the internet.
Reply:Get to know the person more, if you have a webcam I would def. do that. Then talk to him on the phone and then when you meet up with anyone on the internet, make sure you have a friend with you . ALWAYS, and meet in a public place, ALWAYS! Just in case! Just be careful
Reply:you just need to tell him that you like him but just want to be his friend if he hates that then date him for awhile and see if you actually like then if not break up
Reply:well if you are not ready for an relationship then you should just tell the person. it would be really hard at first. well sorry about the whole thing i'm not really good at answering questions.please add me.