Internet dating. I have been speaking with a man for a very long time well over a year. The time has now?

come for him to visit my way and he has told me he cannot meet with me when he is here because his life is to complicated and this would just make things worse. Why would you chat with someone for so long and when it comes down to the real deal to meet in person...then back out? fyi everything he has told me about himself has checked out and is ligit...please share your thoughts..be courteous...i am feeling very sad right now. Thanks

Internet dating. I have been speaking with a man for a very long time well over a year. The time has now?
I'm sorry you feel sad right now. PLEASE take the man at his word and DON'T press meeting him! He obviously has some issues and/or may have misled you in some way. He knows you'll find out whatever his secret is if you meet in person.


It is painful that he led you on for over a year, but consider how painful a bullet you are dodging by not getting involved with him. Consider yourself blessed and leave it alone.
Reply:omfg!


well...that happened to me once..


i did cut off all kinds of communication with him...


but one day we met in a park...


so...i've been dating him for about 5 months :D


i'd advise you to tell him that it's just a meeting...


it's no big deal you know?


and ignore the "MEETING ONLINE PEOPLE IS DANGEROUS" comments....WE ALL KNOW THAT!








hope this cheers you up :)
Reply:I think you did the right thing. What a waste! A year and then this happens. He as the man should defiantly come to you! If he trys to contact you just ignore him, it will only make you more sad.


You'll feel better soon.
Reply:well , i use internet ( games , chat roomes ....... ) since 1995 , i saw to many times peoploe on line get involved and i could say more than 95% based on lie , because people can say anything from behind them pc , and when they get start being friend with some one , then they can not stop , and they can not go back ,and they can not ( in most case ) tell the true about theselves . so i think you better contact him on line for 1 last time and make it clear .
Reply:Please no, i personally do not believe in internet relationships. What ever happened to the old ways, you meet a stranger in the street, in the pouring rain, he helps you get in a taxi, and you never see him again, until one day, your playing in the park with your dog, when your dog goes wandering off, and then this man taps you on the shoulder and you turn around, and it is him, with your dog in his hand. And then you guys hit it off from there. Come on! And If he tries to talk to you again, just ignore him. That's my advice. and its probably the one that you didnt want to hear.
Reply:no dont contact him maybe he has a girl or he doesnt look like he said he does
Reply:First thought, he is married,happy or not hard to say,it is way safe on the computer,one can say any thing with no commitment,or fear of being rejected,and of course no real emotions,or emotions that are not truly tested.He may not be ready, and may be he never will,telling you to get on with your life sound harsh when you are hurting, but this too will pass,good luck
Reply:He is probably afraid of commitment or married ...just ask him whats up and let him know whatever he says won't change the way you feel
Reply:Most obvious reason would be that he's married.