Sunday, November 20, 2011

Complexities with internet dating?

This woman says she absolutely loves me, and to be honest I love her too, but she is so afraid of screwing things up later that she is afraid to meet me. What can I do to get her to move forward?

Complexities with internet dating?
persuade her. and tell her there's no pressure. remind her the positives of being in a relationship, she'll never know what could happen if she never gives it a chance...
Reply:The fear she claims is probably because she has misrepresented herself to you. She could be a "He" for all you know. May be older, fatter, uglier then you were lead to think. Such people like to keep the fantasy going for as long as possible-so you need to be firm-meet me or leave me. Do not let her tie up your time when you want a real-not fantasy-encounter.


Sorry if you feel that this is not what you want to hear-It comes from experience-not meant to be hurtful or mean.
Reply:just


talk 2 her tell she iz ready
Reply:Drop the neurotic chick like a bad habit, before it is too late.
Reply:show her that there is nothing to worry about...
Reply:Can you imagine spending the rest of your life having a relationship with someone you've never been in the same room with? Can she? I'm guessing no. So the relationship is probably doomed if you don't meet. This means she has a lot to potentially gain from meeting you, and not a whole lot to lose.





You can always solemnly promise her a second date in advance, just incase something goes horribly wrong on the first, though it probably won't.





Edited to add, tell her the story of me and my husband. When we first met in person after talking online for a long time, we got comfortable with each other quickly. Less than an hour after meeting we went out for pizza and the waitress assumed I was his wife.
Reply:You have to provide and out for her. Like tell her you will visit on like the weekend at first no rush or anything. Can see how things are for that stretch of time. If she has a good time over the weekend. Just call from your hotel and ask her if she had fun and a good time. Then if she does, let her suggest when she wants to do it again. But don't be in a rush with her. See the real world is much different than the online one. Feelings get started very quickly and most people freak out because in reality of what was said on the net they know in the real world they would never be so bold. So have to give her time and all that. She needs to have a sense of control here. So don't offer to stay at her home, but say you will have a hotel room in the area and, you can have public dates. As long as she gives you directions to a mall or something. The ball is very much in her court. Once she feels calmer with you, I'm sure she will know what to do. Good luck.

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